The TRUTH Behind Perfect Facebook Posts…

by Tammy Taylor

 

I’ve read how people are oftentimes negatively affected by reading about others’ festivities on Facebook.  You know, holiday pics, vacation photos, or lavish special-occasion dinners, etc.  It’s common knowledge that many people start to feel inadequate when reading about Martha-Stewart styled Christmases or picturesque views one of their FB friends enjoyed on their vacation. They begin to compare their normal everyday life to the sparkly perfection they’re reading about from their friends’ posts.  Their perfect holiday or perfect children.  Their perfect vacation or perfectly made & presented home-made meal.  Now I’ve never really been affected negatively by reading Facebook posts because I look at it this way: People are NOT gonna post the boring blah parts of their lives, only the shiny parts. And that’s ok!  I actually enjoy reading about what’s going on outside these four walls.  But it got me to thinking…

THE TRUTH BEHIND PERFECT FACEBOOK POSTS! Do you feel inadequate comparing your life to the perfection you're reading on your friends' Facebook posts #TaylorMadeHomestead

 

Recently I was trying to decide what flavor endless soup I wanted to make for our weeks’ worth of bone-warming lunches during this cold weather.  I decided against the Mexican or Italian flavored that I usually go for and opted instead to make a good hearty stew-styled soup.  It was delicious, and I wanted to share with our followers.  I often find inspiration in these kinds of posts and I was hoping to help inspire others that are trying to find easy ways to eat healthier as well.  But when I snapped a picture of the stew to share on Taylor-Made Homestead’s Facebook page, I positioned the bowl on a plate and fanned out the bread slices so it would look nice.  But you certainly couldn’t see the preparation dishes cluttering the sink in the background.

THE TRUTH BEHIND PERFECT FACEBOOK POSTS! Do you feel inadequate comparing your life to the perfection you're reading on your friends' Facebook posts #TaylorMadeHomestead

And when I took a picture of our mini-schnauzer Bailey sitting on the fireplace rug to share with our Facebook readers recently, I cropped out the spots where embers have popped out over the years & scorched that hearth rug.  I wanted to show how fuzzy she’s gotten this winter, not my ugly ember-pocked rug.

And when RancherMan & I were assembling our homemade Christmas gifts during the holidays we had all manner of materials spread out on my kitchen counter tops.   My mama always taught me that presentation is half of the gift.  There was brown paper & ribbon, bows, glue, denim material and special-edged scissors.  There were the jars of our homemade goodness and pretty towels & special serving bowls to use to present our gifts to our loved ones.  It looked like an explosion in my kitchen!  But while it was all going on I was snickering at the complete chaos, enough so that I snapped the picture above.  But unfortunately only AFTER half of the top bar had already been cleared.  Trust me when I say it was MUCH worse than the picture shows…

So when you’re reading FB posts about what’s going on in people’s lives, remember they’re sharing the shiny parts with ya. Their lives are not more perfect than yours.  Their vacations are not without bumps in the road and their families are not “The Walton’s” perfected.  They’re going through life just as you, enjoying the good parts and doing their best to look past the not-so-fun parts.   Just realize that fact when you’re browsing.  Enjoy the story and know that we’re all in the same boat.  I’m not sure ‘perfection’ is even in the vocabulary here at the Taylor Household. But we’re lovin’ REAL life (blemishes and all) here @ the Homestead.

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101 thoughts on “The TRUTH Behind Perfect Facebook Posts…

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  2. Evelyn Edgett

    Great post–and so true! One of the first posts I did for my blog stated that my life is NOT perfect, and anyone who claims to have a perfect life is either lying to impress or delusional. I like how the Amish look at life–in the beautiful quilts they make they always add in a little flaw. It keeps them from being prideful. Maybe that’s how we should look at the behind the scenes part of our posts–they are the flaws that keep us from being too prideful. Actually, I consider my life as a ‘blooper reel’!

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      I’m somewhere in the middle, Evelyn. Although I’d never claim that my life is perfect, I do always look at the bright side, so to me – my life really *is* pretty darn perfect. But I’d never accept a guest through my front door and march them right to the mud room so they’d be sure to see how imperfect my life really is. I feel much the same with my blog. I try to present the best to my blog guests, just as I would to a guest in my living room. That’s ok! But with the popularity of social media, many people are seeing all their friend’s trips to fun faraway places or fancy restaurants, perfectly-dressed kids at the latest popular entertainment venue and start feeling bad about their own lives. Those friends are showing the shiny parts of their lives – and that’s ok too! The important thing to remember is when you’re looking at those wonderful shiny parts of your friends’ lives on social that you don’t get to feeling your own life doesn’t measure up. Each of us have shiny parts in our own lives, and isn’t that wonderful? ~TMH~

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  3. Sarah

    Perfect post. This is ABSOLUTELY true. It pays to remember what goes on in the background…! Thanks for sharing! Sarah @ enrichmentality.com

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      YES Sarah – you get it! This is probably my most misunderstood post in the entire blog. So many people didn’t get the point of this post & assumed I was saying we all needed to post the messiness of our lives so others will feel better about their own lives, but that’s not what I’m saying at all. We all have the ability to read those fun posts while keeping things in perspective with regard to our own lives. ~TMH~

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  4. Edith

    Thanks for addressing this. We fall prey of unfair comparison easily when in truth we also contribute to Fb’s stock of perfect pix and posts. Tweeted and shared on my Fb page, Aunty Edith.

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      Our falling prey to unfair comparison happens in our own minds Edith, it’s up to us to keep things in perspective for ourselves. The purpose of this post is to remind us of that fact. And I think you’re absolutely correct, it all comes together on FB. Thanks for the share! ~TMH~

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  5. Edith

    Yeah, who’s gonna show the messed up kitchen or living room, the unweeded garden, etc. When the demon of unfair comparison comes around, we should remind it that we have our own collection of perfect Facebook pix and posts. No one has everything, really.

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      …or just enjoy those fun FB posts for exactly what they are – fun posts! ~TMH~

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  6. Sandra Garth

    This is so true! My kitchen and work area is a hot mess when I’m through and one day I may be brave enough to share the behind the scenes stuff.

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      I have no intention of showing the behind the scenes stuff Sandra (with the exception of this post for demonstration purposes). I’m not suggesting that we’re not showing the messy parts of our lives enough – I’m suggesting that when we’re viewing others posts we don’t self-depreciate our own lives thinking our FB friends’ lives are perfect. I don’t have any interest in seeing someone’s unmade bed or disaster in the kitchen (unless it’s done as a laughing matter) and I’m sure other readers feel the same. And that’s ok! It’s up to each person to keep a healthy balance in their own minds & not make ridiculous and unrealistic comparisons about their own lives. ~TMH~

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  7. Mary-the boondocks blog

    This is so true it is not even funny. Sometimes I make a mistake and get lazy and instead of retaking the photo I sit there and edit it. This of course, takes up twice as much time as it would have had I just retaken it. I can go on and on about this subject. Haha!!

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      I’m guilty of the same thing Mary. But of course we want to present our projects (or our lives) in the best possible light. There’s nothing wrong with that – the trouble lies when someone mistakes that best-possible-light short for the illusion that all things are perfect for the people they’re reading about. ~TMH~

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  8. Megan

    Blogging has definitely given me a different perspective on all those beautiful social media posts. I know all too well how much work goes into those perfect shots! Thanks for sharing your insight with Merry Monday!

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  9. Dara

    I recently read somewhere that you shouldn’t compare your behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. I loved that quote because it is easy to look at posts and think, “gee that house is so clean” and “she has amazing dishes” and “whoa those kids are so precious”. Probably she made the kids stand in that corner to take the shot so no one could see the clutter on the coffee table, and that is probably the only dish with that pattern that she bought at a consignment shop specifically to take the food pics, and those kids were literally pinching each other before the photo was snapped. It sorta puts it in perspective for me. 😀

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  10. Janet Vinyard

    Great message, especially during the holidays when there are so many posts featuring big, beautiful houses decorated to perfection! Thanks for reminding us this is the “shiny” stuff! Blessings, Janet

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      🙂 Indeed Janet. So many people mistake this post to be about bloggers needing to show the messiness in their lives. But it’s not! It’s about the reader understanding what they’re reading (and more importantly, what they’re NOT reading) It’s about not comparing our lives to what is mistakenly perceived as perfection. I love that you’ve understood the intended message perfectly. ~TMH~

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  11. Karyl

    This is such a spot-on post! I use my dining room table for my food photos, and right now it’s “set” for the holidays. So I just push everything to the darker half of the table, put up the table pad as a backdrop, and photo from there!

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  12. Elaine

    You are speaking the truth!! What a great post! http://www.cookinandcraftin.com/maple-brown-sugar-mini-muffins-with-maple-glaze-and-bacon/

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  13. DazzleWhileFrazzled

    Thanks for the article! It’s so true and probably why I’m not the biggest FB fan (even as a blogger!). Visiting from Friday Favorites party.

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      Oh I love FB, and I love reading the fun stories shared there. It’s fun to keep up with family & friends & see where they’re going and what they’re doing. ~TMH~

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  14. Cheryl

    This is so true with me too!! I always think to myself that most people don’t want to see the mess, even though it is there, lol. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      …and I think you’re right Cheryl, most people don’t want to see the messy parts on FB – I know I don’t. I enjoy reading the shiny parts! ~TMH~

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  15. Carol

    What a great post and reminder that life isn’t always pretty. I think it’s a good idea to occasionally share a pic of the “behind the scenes” chaos….it certainly adds realism. Carol

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      …maybe Carol, but I think the more important lesson here is for the readers of those social media posts. It’s important to realize they are simply the shiny parts you’re seeing on your friend’s walls, and THAT’S OK! As long as we all remember that those people have messy parts in their lives too, just like we all do. ~TMH~

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      Yes Martie, and it’s important for us all to remember that when we’re reading those fun posts. ~TMH~

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  16. Cara

    Such a great post and a great point to make! People share what they want you to see, and all the “shiny” parts, and it’s important to learn not to compare yourself to others in general. The grass always looks greener, but 9 times out of 10 that isn’t the case. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Taylor-Made Homestead Post author

      YES Cara, exactly!! I love reading the fun posts on my friends’ FB walls and I’m not prone to negatively comparing my life to them, but I’ve heard friends & family that have mention that they have. It’s important to remember these are just the shiny parts we’re seeing, not the whole ball of wax to these FB friends lives. ~TMH~

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  17. Misty Nicole Roberts

    How awesome! My name is Nicole, and I’m one of the co-hosts for the Merry Monday linky party. I wanted to stop by and thanks for sharing this at Merry Monday’s! Have a great week!

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  23. Kathleen

    I can’t stop laughing because what you say is so true. We all edit out the bad bits, of course its understandable as we want the focus in the right object of our photo. Sometimes we do that in the written word too. The big message here is stop comparing yourself to others. I need to learn that one too. Kathleen

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  24. Nina

    Love this post! I was just thinking this the other day when I started thinking about how my life just can’t compare to all of the amazing things other people are doing (and sharing!) on social media sites. Good to be reminded of the reality ;o)

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  25. Jennifer

    Oh, I can relate. When snapping photos, I try to keep the messy spots out of view. It’s a good reminder that most of us are just regular people.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      YES – that’s exactly what I was trying to convey Jennifer – we ALL have our shiny and not-so-shiny parts. 🙂 ~TMR~

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  26. Nicole

    Yes, absolutely YES to this post! I have often thought about this as I position something on top of and in front of white boards to get a good, elegant and clean shot for my blog and to the sides and all around the board is a giant MESS! It’s a balancing act because I want to present my best self to people, no matter in the cyber or real world, but at the same time, also want to be authentic and honest – far from perfection here! This same idea I have found goes with posts about our kids. I have noticed “we” post cute things they say, adorable pictures of perfect day outings with them, proud learning moments…but no one sees those OTHER moments…any parent knows what I am talking about…I wonder how parents who are having a really hard spell with their children are feeling when they see all those “perfect” posts. I found you at the #ALittleR&RWednesdays linky party. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      I think you ARE being authentic and honest when you present yourself in the best light Nicole. Are you being less than authentic when you put on makeup before work? When you slip into that beautiful new dress for a date? And does that beautiful dress mean you don’t have a comfy but worn pair of sweat pants in your closet? Not at all! I look at FB posts like this – No one wants to see your burnt cake or your messy kitchen – it’s that beautiful creation you’re sharing with us that we want to see. The point in this post is that we all need to realize that we’re seeing those shiny parts of our friends’ lives and enjoying them, but all of us have our warts – and that’s ok… ~TMR~

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  27. Ida

    What a great post! I can really recommend a Facebook group called ” Family Living- the true story”. The group started as a protest and contrast to all social media posts and fancy magazines showing off perfect homes. ( There is a Swedish decorating magazine called ” Family Living” and the targetgroup is middle class families interested in decorating.) The great thing about the Facebook group is that the members post pictures of their everyday mess. It’s real mess from real people:0) The comments are of course in Swedish but I’d say the pictures speaks for themselves:0) / Ida from Sweden

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Ya know Ida, I have no problem with “keepin’ it real” posts where people show their own messy lives sometimes – and I’ve certainly done posts like that while laughing at myself on occasion. But I’m not suggesting that we all should feel compelled to open the virtual laundry hampers of our lives to our friends & family on social media so that they can feel better about their own lives. People should just realize that they’re not seeing the laundry-hamper posts, nor should they (in my opinion). I know that I’m not the least bit interested in seeing Aunt Betty’s burnt birthday cake or cousin Sue’s messy unmade bed and I’m assuming none of my friends or family are interested in seeing that either. I believe that you can’t force someone to feel better about their own lives, we can only do that for ourselves. ~TMR~

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  29. elaine

    So True!! Thanks for sharing on My 2 Favorite Things on Thursday – Link Party!! Hope you come back tomorrow and share some more!! Pinned!!

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  30. The Accidental Farmers

    Sooo true! Sometimes I look at pictures of this nice happy, smiling family in front of the Christmas tree and think, oh, I want to be them. Then I realize it IS MY FAMILY and I know the teenager was in a crabby mood having her picture taken, the hubby was wondering who was calling the house phone and the cat was yakking up a furball, all while I was trying to get the dog away from the camera tripod.

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  31. Alli

    Love this! As I walked back into the house after a photo shoot of my beautiful strawberry tartlets on my front porch (better, natural light) with my hands full of food, props, camera, etc. I almost screamed when I saw the state of my kitchen. For a brief moment, I thought a thief had broken in and tossed the place looking for treasures I didn’t know I had. Behind every beautiful pictures is a big, fat mess that has to be cleaned. I need a sous chef. 🙂

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      LOL Alli – I’ve *SO* felt that way before! Dang break-in thieves… LOL!! Thanks for the snicker this morning. ~TMR~

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Every life has ’em Penny – both shiny & un-shiny parts. And that’s OK! ~TMR~

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  32. Misty Nicole Roberts

    Very true! One way I have found to keep my happy, shiny home… completely clearing off my counter tops! They have been cleared for a over a year, and the peace of mind this brings, is priceless. So, sometimes the bumps are hidden in one another’s lives, and sometimes they are just pretty, shiny, and uncluttered, too!

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  34. Erin

    Just found this and love it! We always show the “shiny” parts of our lives. Its the equivalent of a Mom saying their house is a mess, and all I see is a cluttered counter. No, no, no. Daily you find my coffee table a mess, the couch littered with kids clothes, books, and maybe crumbs. The kitchen sink looks like tetris, and there is a colony of laundry baskets waiting to be folded, and mayyyyybe put away. Thanks for the reality shot in this post 🙂 I’m happy I’m not the only one whos kitchen looks like it exploded when I make something good!

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Exactly Erin. Our social media lives that we show to others are much like mom saying to us “Grandma’s on her way to visit, let’s clean up this mess before she gets here”, just in an electronic kinda way. LOL ~TMR~

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  36. heidi

    You are so right, we show the good stuff and hide all the bad. But it’s still great to see all that good stuff.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      And that’s my point Heidi, it’s great to see the good stuff and we SHOULD be sharing the good stuff! Ain’t nothin’ wrong with that. ~TMR~

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  37. Erlene

    This is so true! Sometimes it’s hard not to compare your life to another, but it’s good to remember that a lot of it is the shiny parts of their life. Thanks for the reminder 🙂 Oh, and with four kids…my whole house often looks like your counters…lol.

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  38. Jenny @ Unremarkable Files

    So important to remember when you’re looking a FB (or Pinterest!) That really pretty redo of the laundry room? Well, all the other rooms of the house probably look like crap. That’s what I choose to believe, anyway. If your house looks fabulous all the time, everywhere, hats off to you but keep it to yourself!

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  39. Elizabeth

    I do the same thing when I am taking pics for my blog. It is so true: facebook and social media are not “real life”. We all need that reminder sometimes!

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      I prefer to look at it as real life alright, just not both sides of the story. Again, that’s fine – I don’t really want to see one of my FB friends’ dirty kitchen or backed up toilets. It’s just important to remember that you’re seeing the nicer parts of your social media friends’ lives – they have pitfalls the same as you. ~TMR~

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  40. Corinne

    Great reminder! Even though we all edit out the negative when we post, we forget that everybody else does too. Thank you for posting this and for linking it up at the This Is How We Roll Thursday party.

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  41. MM

    The heartbeat of this post could not have been more eloquently said TMR! I think perfection is boring, to be honest! Who lives in a perfect world? No one I know… but there are many who try to pretend they do. I think it is far more realistic to allow for some dirt, dust, and imperfections to come across in your posting, because that is reality, and life, and it is wonderful. Think about this – would we ever really enjoy the sunshine, if we didn’t have clouds and rain? Would the mountains ever carry such splendor if there were no valleys to view them from? I chose to enjoy the journey, dirt, clouds, imperfections and all, and I’m glad to read your post about it – wonderful perspective for all of us to think on! Blessings to you and yours today 🙂

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  43. Laura Sue Shaw

    What a great read.. it’s all so true. I can’t tell you how many time I’ve cropped out the messy half of my table while taking photos for my blog! Thanks for sharing and keeping it real 🙂

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Ya know Laura, you SHOULD crop out the messy half of your table when taking pictures for your blog. The shiny parts of your life can be beautiful, and fun, and exciting. There’s nothing wrong with showing those shiny parts beautifully. What must change is our perception of perfection when reading other people’s shiny posts. They’re just doing the same thing we are – showing the shiny parts of their lives in the most beautiful light possible and the point is that’s OK. Their lives are not perfect, their children are not perfect, their crafts are not perfect. Just shiny! ~TMR~

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  44. Vashti Quiroz-Vega

    Hi Tammy! What a lovely post. I really enjoyed reading it. It is so honest and sweet. I’m going to share it. 😀 xx

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  45. Brandi Clevinger

    My sister sometimes gets down about seeing her friends’ pictures on Facebook because she thinks their lives are so perfect and happy all the time. After a few times of her saying this to me, I pointed out some ‘picture perfect’ photos on my personal page and told her about how many shots I took to get that good one and the chaotic behind the scenes mess taht was happening that you couldn’t see in the photo. It helped a little, but it’s our very nature to easily envy the shiny moments. I found your post at A Little R&R linky party.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Good for you Brandi for helping your sis see reality behind the posts she’s viewing. Each of us should enjoy those shiny posts, laugh at the funny antics and be happy for those enjoying life without feeling down about our own lives. We’re all in the same boat with less-than-shiny times in their lives. To me, it’s uplifting to read good stuff when things are less than shiny here. ~TMR~

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  46. Lisa @ Fun Money Finds

    I completely agree with your post! I know that I don’t leave Facebook posts about negative things in my life (other than mild annoyances from time to time) so I don’t expect others to do that either. I have heard the same thing about people feeling inferior when on FB but people only post the good stuff (most people anyway). The only time I feel jealous is when I see someone on a fabulous vacation and I want to be there with them…LOL

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Yeah, I guess it’s hard for me to relate to people feeling inferior because of exciting social media posts, I’ve never been afflicted that way. I’ve always understood they were showing the shiny parts, just like I was. But, from what I understand, it’s a very common problem. ~TMR~

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  47. Audrey

    Ironically I have the opposite happen too. When my son is driving me crazy and want to rant about it I will see a post from a friend that lost her 16 year old daughter. Or I have a cold I can’t shake and see a post from a friend checking in at chemo. It is important to keep it all in perspective.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Excellent point Audrey! And you’re so right, it’s so important to keep it all in perspective. Thanks so much for weighing in. ~TMR~

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  48. Yanique

    I couldn’t agree more. It’s a dangerous game when we start comparing ourselves to others. I’ve been guilty of that and still have moments. I’m learning to be grateful of what I have and to be happy for what others have instead of being envious. Not always easy to do, but it really does make a difference! #you’regonnaloveittuesday

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      YES Yanique, that’s exactly the point I was trying to make. Being grateful for what you have and being happy for others instead of being envious. It’s great that Aunt Betty is doing great in the kitchen or that Cousin Bill is enjoying a vacation, why can’t we just be happy for them? We have our own beautiful life going on right in our own backyard, right? Thanks so much for stopping by, I’m glad you’re here. ~TMR~

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  49. Life Breath Present

    I love the stories behind pictures. And we work so hard to get at least fairly decent photos for social media, those stories are often left out. Last year, I started a Mostly Unedited Photos thing, but life got in the way and I didn’t keep it up, but maybe sometime this year I’ll get back to it! 🙂

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  50. jennifer Abel

    I love it and oh so true. I usually always have a bit of this and a bit of that in the background of my images, sometimes I will crop but often I don’t. Linking from #merrymondaylinkyparty

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      I always crop my pictures to make them look nicer Jennifer. And that’s ok. The point is that people looking at pictures and reading stories on social media should realize that those people are showing the shiny parts & not make unrealistic self-depreciating parallels with their own lives. ~TMR~

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  51. Terri Presser

    You are so right we are all in the same boat and only want to share the good in our lives – not the messy. Thanks for sharing this at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

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  52. victoria witte

    You are so right. It’s dangerous and often depressing to compare our own lives to the lives that people allow us to see. There is a whole different side to the picture that we don’t know anything about. It’s easy to shoot around the mess and post perfect on fb and even in real life unless we know the people we interact with really well we usually get an edited version.

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  53. Gentle Joy

    I have long realized that… and I do not mind it…. unless they always come across as perfect.. or condescending. I value “real”…. and yet, who wants to see all of the dirty dishes, laundry or other stuff not quite done yet. 🙂 We all tend to have those kinds of “pictures”.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      I’m pretty confident no one is perfect regardless of what their photos look like, but I don’t deal well at all with condescending so I know whatcha mean there. ~TMR~

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  54. ColleenB.

    I think we are all in the same shoes. Love those darling soup bowls and that soup looks delish. With freezing temperatures along with freezing rain coming in, I made up a big pot of chili for us to have tomorrow. Also made a Large crockpot of spaghetti sauce as well which simmered all day. Made a lasagna to put in the freezer and now today will be making stuffed pizza shells, so needless to say my kitchen was a total mess yesterday; washing dishes off and on all day. My oven racks could really use a good cleaning but that will have to wait till we get a good hot and sunny day cause I put my racks outside and let the sun bake them and then I just take the garden hose and rinse them off. Enjoy your weekend. Stay warm and Snuggle On.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Colleen, my friend, you sure are a gal to be prepared. Sounds like you’ll be standing ready when Ole Man Winter comes rolling in again soon. Funny you should mention those bowls – I love them too! I saw them at a garage sale a few years ago and they wanted well more than I wanted to pay so I put them down and walked away. Then walked back. Then walked away. I couldn’t stand it & I walked back & grabbed them up before anyone else could take them. Don’t know what it is about them but I love them! ~TMR~

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  55. Jodie@Jodies Kitchen

    This was a great read today.I totally agree with it all.Being a non professional food blogger myself, I have tried over the years to better my photography and get that prefect shot.I also however on my fb page have a album called jodies kitchen oops which I share pictures of the food that burned up or spilled on the floor.I do this just because I want people to know I myself am a home cook and not a professional chef who has problems in the kitchen just like them.I have also worked in a restaurant with a chef and people would be surprised at the mistakes that are thrown away.Thank you for writing such a great post.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      You’re right Jodie, sometimes keepin’ it real makes other people feel better about themselves. But even more importantly we need to keep in mind when we’re reading all those fun posts that these folks are just posting the shiny parts, and THAT’S OK. It’s our self-depreciating comparisons that need to change, not (in my opinion) the fun or beautiful posts by others. ~TMR~

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  57. Ellen C.

    Thanks so much for keeping it real! I use my counter top for pictures of knitting projects to post on Ravelry and any number of craft projects for my computer craft folder. I can’t count the times I shove everything out of the way to take that ‘perfect’ shot. It is a good reminder that we are all in the same boat and to silence the perfectionism voices. Love your blog.

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Although I think it’s probably grounding to keep it real from time to time when posting for others, I think the more important lesson here is for those of us enjoying others’ posts. Love them, learn from them, smile about them, but know that they’re only the shiny parts, no more or less shiny than those special moments in your own life. ~TMR~

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  58. Jordan

    That’s a good thing to keep in mind! I sometimes find myself getting a little jealous of people’s homes on facebook… then I remember that I don’t exactly show the cluttered parts of my own home, myself!

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Exactly Jordan. There’s nothing at all wrong with showing the shiny parts of your life! ~TMR~

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    1. Taylor-Made Ranch Post author

      Of course you are Lucy, what you’re trying to get the readers to focus on is that great project or special recipe. We’re all wanting to show the shiny parts, and there’s nothing in the world wrong with that. The problem lies with those that perceive those shiny parts as our only reality and start making unrealistic comparisons with their own life. ~TMR~

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