by Tammy Taylor~
“I see there’s an estate sale this weekend, do you think we should attend?” I asked RancherMan recently. As I went over the high-end offerings we got into a pretty deep conversation. You see, RancherMan & I often have these deep conversations with our morning coffee. We’ve discussed kneeling at the anthem, insurance problems, political tensions, terrorism, racial tensions, generational entitlements, and more. Nothing’s been off limits.
But today we were talking about the interesting social shift of current generations compared to generations passed. I wondered what future the estate sales and their higher quality antiquities would hold? Will they continue to attract buyers or would they just eventually disappear? And why are younger generations not interested in things like fine china or heavy well-made antique furniture?
As we talked, a couple of things came to mind. It seems generations in the 30’s, 40’s & 50’s were vastly different than later generations. Does that explain why Junior is no longer interested in grandma’s fine china? And what does that mean for the special things a typical family might store back for their children one day?
Many in earlier generations really had to claw their way through various steps in their lives. My grandparents married young in 1938 and struggled to finally get their own home, which my grandfather built. Extended family members would help get the young couple on their feet by sharing belongings they were no longer using. These things had often been previously passed down to them such as their grandma’s china and Aunt Dorothy’s dining table. Little by little they made their house into a home and started their family, while still struggling financially every step of the way. By the time their children grew up and started out on their own they had finally reached a financially-comfortable place. Now they wanted to make sure their children had the same assistance they received when they were just starting out. It was just the way it was done back then.
But today’s young families have more options that are much less expensive available to them. There’s no shortage of lighter-weight & inexpensive furniture & household goods. Retailers such as Walmart & Ikea help to outfit their home on the cheap.
Difference In Entertainment Ideals
Our grandmothers often held lavish dinner parties. And they dedicated that good china for only special occasions. Their china was often passed down in near pristine condition, cherished for its opulence from generation to generation. These generations used these gatherings as a major form of their social interaction & entertainment.
Although there’s still no shortage of dinner parties today, now it’s common for groups of people to hang out more often at other entertainment venues – clubs, bars, theme parks and the like.
It seems past generations were much more formal as well. Those dinner parties were often well orchestrated and they displayed all the finest possessions they had. These fineries were a great source of pride for those families.
Today’s dinner parties are almost always much more casual. They often involve serve-yourself covered dish foods served on cute yet inexpensive or sometimes disposable dishes.
Putting Down Roots
Once older generations had their own home, often it was there that they raised their families and went through the various life stages all in the same place. It was not uncommon for many generations of the same family to live within just a few miles of each other all their lives.
Today’s generation is often more mobile. They might live in several different apartments or rented houses in various cities when they first strike out on their own. And there are job transfers and moves to different states as they find their own way. Today’s generations often live in several temporary locations before finally putting down longer-term roots.
What Does That Mean To Me?
What does all of this mean to me? There are always exceptions, but we shouldn’t assume that our kiddos will be excited to receive that china passed down for generations or the sturdy furniture we enjoyed as a child. It’s always a good idea to check & see if there’s any interest of course but today’s generations are in a different place than generations gone by.
And for me one of the most important takeaways is that I don’t want to put back the ‘good stuff’ for use only on special occasions. We own very few higher-end items but the things we have are not tucked away behind glass or in a dusty chest, unseen and unloved.
Those Waterford Crystal glasses are relished as RancherMan & I watch that golden sunset in the evenings. Grandma’s beautiful handmade quilt is on our bed right now. And I think that mentality applies to other ‘special occasion’ fineries as well – finer soaps & lotions are enjoyed now, not tucked away for special occasion.
Heck we’ve decided every day is a special day, why not enjoy those things now??
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